How to create a conditional trigger - sql

Question

I have a table with an id as auto incremented primary key and another id.
CREATE TABLE tester (
"id" integer PRIMARY KEY AUTOINCREMENT,
"refId" integer DEFAULT 0
);
refId should be able to either be 0 (the default) or reference id if refId > 0 (i.e. act as foreign key).
Now I need two constraints:
A row should only be deletable if its id is not used (referenced?) by any other row's refId
A row should only be deletable if its refId is 0.
From what I have understood, I need to create a trigger that checks for these constraints before a DELETE event happens. And depending on refId's value either abort the delete action or allow it.
However, I have a hard time understanding the syntax for this and how to do a conditional check. But what I have so far (in mind!) is concerning 1.):
CREATE TRIGGER no_delete_if_inuse
BEFORE DELETE ON tester
FOR EACH ROW BEGIN
SELECT RAISE(ABORT, 'cannot delete because of foreign key violation')
WHERE (SELECT "refId" FROM tester WHERE "refId" = OLD."id") IS NOT NULL;
END;
And concerning 2.)
CREATE TRIGGER no_delete_if_ref
BEFORE DELETE ON tester
FOR EACH ROW BEGIN
IF OLD."refId" > 0 THEN RAISE(ABORT, "cannot delete tester because it refers to an existing tester");
END;
Does this make sense and is valid?
I am totally not sure, to me it does but well, I am all noob.
Also as a last question, can I alternatively combine this into a single trigger? For example would this be a valid query:
CREATE TRIGGER no_delete_if_inuse
BEFORE DELETE ON tester
FOR EACH ROW BEGIN
SELECT RAISE(ABORT, 'cannot delete because of foreign key violation')
WHERE (SELECT "refId" FROM tester WHERE ("refId" = OLD."id" OR "refId" > 0) ) IS NOT NULL;
END;

Answer 1

You can define a foreign key referring to the same table. Use null instead of 0 for rows without a reference:
create table tester(
id int primary key,
refid int references tester,
check (id <> refid)
);
insert into tester values
(1, null),
(2, null),
(3, 1),
(4, 3);
You need a trigger to ensure that a row which references another one cannot be deleted.
create or replace function before_delete_on_tester()
returns trigger language plpgsql as $$
begin
if old.refid is not null then
raise exception
'Cannot delete: (id)=(%) references (id)=(%)', old.id, old.refid;
end if;
return old;
end $$;
create trigger before_delete_on_tester
before delete on tester
for row execute procedure before_delete_on_tester();
Test:
delete from tester where id = 1;
ERROR: update or delete on table "tester" violates foreign key constraint "tester_refid_fkey" on table "tester"
DETAIL: Key (id)=(1) is still referenced from table "tester".
delete from tester where id = 4;
ERROR: Cannot delete from tester. (id)=(4) references (id)=(3)
CONTEXT: PL/pgSQL function before_delete_on_tester() line 4 at RAISE
In Postgres you have to define a trigger function. Read more:
Overview of Trigger Behavior
Trigger Procedures
Create Trigger