Creating instances of forms inside a thread - vb.net

Question

i am trying to create a new instance of a form if its not allready been created the only problem is is that the instance creation is inside a thread.
Private Sub doRead(ByVal ar As System.IAsyncResult)
Dim totalRead As Integer
Try
totalRead = client.GetStream.EndRead(ar) 'Ends the reading and returns the number of bytes read.
Catch ex As Exception
'The underlying socket have probably been closed OR an error has occured whilst trying to access it, either way, this is where you should remove close all eventuall connections
'to this client and remove it from the list of connected clients.
End Try
If totalRead > 0 Then
'the readBuffer array will contain everything read from the client.
Dim receivedString As String = System.Text.Encoding.UTF8.GetString(readBuffer, 0, totalRead)
messageReceived(receivedString)
End If
Try
client.GetStream.BeginRead(readBuffer, 0, BYTES_TO_READ, AddressOf doRead, Nothing) 'Begin the reading again.
Catch ex As Exception
'The underlying socket have probably been closed OR an error has occured whilst trying to access it, either way, this is where you should remove close all eventuall connections
'to this client and remove it from the list of connected clients.
MessageBox.Show(ex.ToString)
End Try
End Sub
The problem lies when the form is created on the line .showDialog() it stops here untill the application is closed. ive tryed using .show() but then the new "Convo window just hangs"
Private Sub messageReceived(ByVal message As String)
Dim data() As String = message.Split("|"c)
Select Case data(0)
Case "MESSAGE"
Dim chatDialog As New RichTextBox
Try
If conversations.ContainsKey(data(1)) Then
Dim convoWindow As ChatWindow
convoWindow = New ChatWindow
convoWindow = conversations.Item(data(1))
chatDialog = convoWindow.RichTextBox1
Else
Try
Dim convoWindow As New ChatWindow()
conversations.Add(data(1), convoWindow)
convoWindow = conversations.Item(data(1))
convoWindow.ShowDialog()
chatDialog = convoWindow.RichTextBox1
AppendTextChatWindows(data(2), chatDialog)
Thanks
Houlahan