What is so great about ORM? - sql

So I'm having a head against the wall moment and hoping somebody can come help either remove the wall or stop my head from moving!!
Over the last 3/4 weeks I've been investigating ORM's in readyness for a new project. The ORM must map to an existing, large and ageing SQL database.
So I tried Subsonic. I really liked v2 and v3 after modding to work nicely with VB and named schemas in SQL was running OK. However, its lack of flexibility of having separate entity properties names vs column names had me pulling my hair out (sorry Rob).
I tried Entity Framework but I found like others it lacking in certain areas.
So I bit the bullet and tried nHibernate but after a week or so getting it working how I liked (with help from Codesmith to generate classes/hbms for me) I'm frustrated with the time it takes to startup (build a config object), despite trying a number of tricks to reduce this time.
I'm essentially after building a DAL class that I can share between apps and websites. Am I barking up the wrong tree? For a legacy project with 100s of tables should I go back to ado.net and use DTOs? Aarrgh!
Sorry for the ranty style of question. I don't have much hair left and I'd like to keep what I have!!
Thanks in advance, Ed
PS. I should add that I know SQL very well and not scared of getting my hands dirty to write fast queries. If anything I don't need to be hid from SQL

ORM let's you:
To map table rows to objects, that are the the workable pieces of object oriented programming.
To automatically navigate through object relationships
To easily add, edit and remove table rows
To query the database in a more intuitive way as you don't have to think of joins (this one will depend on the ORM and the query method)
To transparently handle L1 and L2 cache.
All of the above would have to be handled by hand if you werent using ORM.
PS: I agree to Dmitry as to the startup time of NHibernate (see question comments). Besides, did you try Fluent NHibernate? Fluent NHibernate is impressively easy. I couldn't believe my eyes when I first mapped a database. It's even easier than proprietary ORMs like DevExpress XPO.

The biggest benefit of an ORM tool is that it will help you layer your application correctly. Most project nowadays use a Data Layer to connect to the database. You start from the ORM tool to produce classes that correspond to your database objects. Then you define an interface using these methods. All persistence code uses the methods of this interface. This way the business logic layer is only coupled to this higher-layer interface and needs to know nothing about the database. In fact there should be no dependency on ADO.NET or even NHibernate.
Another advantage of ORM tools is that you de-couple your application from the database server. You could change the db engine and still use the same code. Also there isn't only the complexity of the SQL that the ORM hides from you. It can also help you with transactions logic and connection pooling.
I'd say that for new projects an ORM tool is a necessity. For legacy projects it isn't so much beneficial, unless of course you have the time/money to start from scratch.

In my experience, most ORMs end up being way more complex than SQL. Which defeats the entire purpose of using them.
One solution I'm enthusiastic about is LINQ2SQL. It excels as a thin layer about stored procedures or views. It's really easy to use and doesn't try to hide SQL.

There are basically two questions here:
What's great about ORMs? There are similar questions on Stackoverflow. See:
What are the advantages of using an ORM?
Is everyone here jumping on the ORM band wagon?
How can I improve NHibernate startup time? See:
http://ayende.com/Blog/archive/2007/10/26/Real-World-NHibernate-Reducing-startup-times-for-large-amount-of.aspx
http://nhforge.org/blogs/nhibernate/archive/2009/03/13/an-improvement-on-sessionfactory-initialization.aspx

Related

Putting forward a solution to replace Typed datasets

A project I am currently employed with will have some time soon to improve and specialise a product that is currently in use.
We may have about 4 man weeks spare in which we could replace the typed datasets that are in use.
The project is currently written in Vb.Net and we will definitely not have time to replace this code with C#.Net, although we would like to.
My question is what would you suggest as a replacement for the typed datasets.
I have currently suggested nHibernate as I have worked with Hibernate before and loved it.
Linq to SQL has been discounted.
So if you can suggest something else/better or highlight what advantages or disadvantages with regards to our current time constraints please do!
Considering your time constraints Linq to SQL (despite being deprecated) would have been ideal. While NH or EF4 are more complete and flexible ORM solutions they do require more consideration of mappings than does a simple drag and drop from the Server Explorer connection mapping onto LINQ to SQL designer and simple instantiation of a DataContext object.
If you don't have the time to get everyone up to speed on an ORM with a future why eliminate the typed datasets at all?
Performance wise they are probably close to identical to what you would be able to get out of an ORM. The benefit of replacement would be maintainability and developer pleasure, both of which would be <warning:shameless plug for personal preference> accompanied by a C# rewrite at the same time...
I think NHibernate is a good choice to replace typed datasets, I just successfully did that on a project I was on recently. I wouldn't do a "big bang" approach though. I would write new features using NHibernate and maintain old features using typed datasets. Once the new features are working well with NHibernate and you have the appropriate usage patterns in place, I would carefully transition the typed dataset and sproc code to use NHibernate instead. The speed at which you do the replacement doesn't really matter, just move at a comfortable pace.
Big bang is always a highly risky approach and incremental progress is easier for everyone to swallow.
I honestly don't see a compelling reason to switch a project in production from VB.NET to C#, there are so few meaningful differences and it helps to have VB.NET (in addition to C#) experience on your resume.
I would not encourage use of LinqToSql nor would I encourage use of Entity Framework 3.5. EF 4 may be a reasonable option using the same incremental approach.

Migrating procedural, antique CRUD code and proprietary DBMS to OO ORM on SQL

Please excuse my long-winded explanation, but I wanted to be as explicit as possible in the hopes of getting as much useful feedback on my situation as possible. You can skip to the questions at the bottom if you are impatient.
Explanation
At my current job, development is done in an antiquated language that is hard-wired to a proprietary DBMS that comes with the language. The language is CRUD-focused, and is essentially a glorified database querying/reporting/updating language with some programming features bolted on as an afterthought. Most programs are top-down procedures and there is very little code reuse; updating a record often requires updating many entangled, related records at the same time that you just need to "know about" as the proprietary database has no inherent foreign key relationships. If a table needs to be updated, we generally must grep our source code and update every procedure that creates/updates records for that table and recompile. I could go on with other annoyances, but needless to say, I am looking for a way to abstract away as much of this behavior as possible into reusable code segments.
The language has semi-recently added some support for object-oriented development, and I have been able to demonstrate the benefits of reusable code to my coworkers with a recent project written using OO constructs. However, my project was only possible because it was a rare task that did not require interacting with our database.
I have really been trying hard to find a way to create re-usable code using OO techniques with this language, but since everything is so database-focused, what I really need is a way to create container classes around our table designs, putting most of our data processing logic into class methods and merging N related tables into 1 singular class. This has brought me to the idea of ORM frameworks, which of course is non-existent on the language I am using at work.
What I have found, is that the DBMS for this language can run a SQL99 engine concurrently with the proprietary language engine, and it includes JDBC and ODBC drivers. This has opened the door for me to explore migration strategies, which is where I think we eventually need to go. Since the SQL engine runs concurrently with the old engine, it is possible for us to do an incremental migration, running new code alongside old code with an eventual goal of migrating our data to a "pure" SQL DBMS when all the old code is replaced.
I initially did quite a bit of reading and proposed Java (using JPA2 for ORM) to my manager, but I think I scared him as he views Java as being a bit heavyweight for our needs. I then did a little more digging and re-proposed Ruby using the JRuby interpreter (using either ActiveRecord or DataMapper for ORM), which was much better received as Rails seems to fit in well with the re-shifting of our development to Web-based front-ends that we are attempting to move to with our old cludgy code, and of course because the ability to interact with Java if the need arises is a great capability.
The Questions
Nearly all of the reading I have
been doing about ORM is focused on
starting with a class structure, and
creating the mapped database
structure as a secondary process.
Is going the other way around
(starting with an existing database
and mapping classes to it) a very
odd thing to do?
Assuming question #1 == true, how
flexible are existing ORM frameworks
such as JPA2, ActiveRecord,
DataMapper etc. to "imperfect" table
design? I am sure we will have to
do some refactoring of existing
table design, but would like to know
if I am undertaking a Herculean task
before I waste too much time on the
effort.
If anyone has a better idea for
language+ORM, I would love to hear
it. It must be SQL-ready using JDBC
or ODBC to fit into our incremental
migration plan.
If anyone has any experience on a similar effort and could point out any helpful resources (especially books), I would be very grateful!
Nearly all of the reading I have been doing about ORM is focused on starting with a class structure, and creating the mapped database structure as a secondary process. Is going the other way around (starting with an existing database and mapping classes to it) a very odd thing to do?
Not really. There are several approaches when dealing with the persistence layer of an application:
Top-down: You start with the object model and the mappings and you derive the database schema from that data.
Bottom-up: You start with your data model i.e. the database schema and you derive the object model and the mappings from the tables.
Middle-out: You start with the mapping and you generate the object model and the tables.
Meet-in-the-middle: You start with an existing database schema and an existing object model, you develop a mapping to map between the two (you can even introduce an additional object layer and brige the existing one).
The top-down approach is the most object-oriented but the meet-in-the-middle approach is probably the most common.
Assuming question #1 == true, how flexible are existing ORM frameworks such as JPA2, ActiveRecord, DataMapper etc. to "imperfect" table design? I am sure we will have to do some refactoring of existing table design, but would like to know if I am undertaking a Herculean task before I waste too much time on the effort.
I would say that JPA is not the most flexible, it will not deal very well with exotic or heavily denormalized schemas (the result might be ugly from an OO point of view). Accesses that don't go through JPA might also be a problem. A data mapper tool like iBatis (now mybatis) will give you more flexibility.
If anyone has a better idea for language+ORM, I would love to hear it. It must be SQL-ready using JDBC or ODBC to fit into our incremental migration plan.
I know that RoR can deal with existing databases, I'm just not sure what the result will look like. But I don't really have enough experience with RoR so I'll let experts elaborate on this.
If anyone has any experience on a similar effort and could point out any helpful resources (especially books), I would be very grateful!
I suggest to browse Scott Ambler website and his book(s):
The Process of Database Refactoring: Strategies for Improving Database Quality
More food for thought:
Working Effectively with Legacy Code by Michael Feathers
Clean Code by Robert Martin

What is the difference between NHibernate and iBATIS.NET?

I am looking for some up to date information comparing NHibernate and iBATIS.NET. I found some information searching Google, but a good bit of it applies either to the Java versions of these products or is dated.
Some specific things I am interested in:
Which is better if you control both the data model and the application?
iBATIS is repeatedly called simpler to learn - does this have long-term maintenance consequences (i.e. easy to start, hard to maintain)?
Do both make it easy to switch the underlying database vendor?
How skilled do your developers need to be with SQL?
Any major feature that one has that the other lacks?
Is either product more suitable for a particular type of application?
Real world examples of observed benefits and drawbacks are appreciated!
EDIT: Thanks for the information. I am doing my own evaluation as well. One thing I am wondering about still, does iBATIS help you to save/update complex object graphs? It seems like NHibernate is nice in that I can pass it a root object and it figures out the details of what, if anything, needs to be updated in the database.
I made some research a while ago.
One specific question from me, might give you some additional information:
Would you use NHibernate for a project with a legacy database, which is partly out of your control?
Some of your points of interest I can answer:
Which is better if you control both the data model and the application?
I can answer it the other way around: If you don't have control over the data model and thus facing some legacy database, iBatis is the better choice.
iBATIS is repeatedly called simpler to learn - does this have long-term maintenance consequences (i.e. easy to start, hard to maintain)?
It depends what you want to do with it. If you have a domain driven development approach then iBatis might get painful by time. If you just do simple data manipulation and don't have a full blown domain model then nHibernate might be a overkill by the time.
Do both make it easy to switch the underlying database vendor?
Both have mechanisms to shield you off from a specific database vendor, but I admit that have not done intense research in this direction.
How skilled do your developers need to be with SQL?
When you use iBatis, you need more SQL skills than NHibernate. Using iBatis you always need to code some SQL. NHibernate doesn't require you to code SQL statements -- it even can do the DDLs for you. Powerful features will require you to go to old good SQL, which will be inevitable.
Some other points:
I personally find that iBatis much more lightweighter. You can get things done very quickly. NHibernate is more powerful, but has much more features, which you can use in wrong way.
It is possible to combine the use of NHibernate and iBatis! You can use NHibernate for your business logic. For reporting purposes, where you just read data out of tables, fallback to iBatis.
If your application has a longer life cycle and a lot of business logic, consider NHibernate. It has a lot of feature aiding you in handle business objects.
The community around NHibernate is very active and come up with useful tools.
In a sense it's comparing apples to oranges.
Which is better if you control both the data model and the application?
They both work with normalized databases well, so they are more-or-less equal if you can shape the db. iBatis is better at mapping to legacy databases since it doesn't actually care about the database structure at all. It only cares about the shape of the result set.
.iBATIS is repeatedly called simpler to learn - does this have long-term maintenance consequences (i.e. easy to start, hard to maintain)?
It is much simpler, but that is because it has a much smaller featureset. I don't think it has any ticking timebomb long term maintenance issues.
Do both make it easy to switch the underlying database vendor?
Yes
How skilled do your developers need to be with SQL?
Both require a good knowledge of SQL. With iBatis, you still have to write the sql queries/procs. With NHibernate you have to know how to write NHibernate queries to get effective SQL. Neither are a replacement for SQL knowledge.
Any major feature that one has that the other lacks?
iBatis is a datamapper (a term used on the iBatis site). NHibernate is a full-blown Object Relational Mapper. iBatis is a great way to go if you primarily want something that takes the monotony out of mapping objects to result sets. However, it doesn't go all the way in trying to solve the object/relational mismatch. NHibernate has many more features such as dirty tracking, caching based on identity /identity map, flexible querying, dynamic sql, batching etc... NHibernate is much more dynamic in that it can do many things in one trip to the DB that could take iBatis several trips.
We recently posted an article comparing these two tools, and I think many of your questions are addressed. The article is here on our wiki site.

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For some of the apps I've developed (then proceeded to forget about), I've been writing plain SQL, primarily for MySQL. Though I have used ORMs in python like SQLAlchemy, I didn't stick with them for long. Usually it was either the documentation or complexity (from my point of view) holding me back.
I see it like this: use an ORM for portability, plain SQL if it's just going to be using one type of database. I'm really looking for advice on when to use an ORM or SQL when developing an app that needs database support.
Thinking about it, it would be far better to just use a lightweight wrapper to handle database inconsistencies vs. using an ORM.
Speaking as someone who spent quite a bit of time working with JPA (Java Persistence API, basically the standardized ORM API for Java/J2EE/EJB), which includes Hibernate, EclipseLink, Toplink, OpenJPA and others, I'll share some of my observations.
ORMs are not fast. They can be adequate and most of the time adequate is OK but in a high-volume low-latency environment they're a no-no;
In general purpose programming languages like Java and C# you need an awful lot of magic to make them work (eg load-time weaving in Java, instrumentation, etc);
When using an ORM, rather than getting further from SQL (which seems to be the intent), you'll be amazed how much time you spend tweaking XML and/or annotations/attributes to get your ORM to generate performant SQL;
For complex queries, there really is no substitute. Like in JPA there are some queries that simply aren't possible that are in raw SQL and when you have to use raw SQL in JPA it's not pretty (C#/.Net at least has dynamic types--var--which is a lot nicer than an Object array);
There are an awful lot of "gotchas" when using ORMs. This includes unintended or unexpected behavior, the fact that you have to build in the capability to do SQL updates to your database (by using refresh() in JPA or similar methods because JPA by default caches everything so it won't catch a direct database update--running direct SQL updates is a common production support activity);
The object-relational mismatch is always going to cause problems. With any such problem there is a tradeoff between complexity and completeness of the abstraction. At times I felt JPA went too far and hit a real law of diminishing returns where the complexity hit wasn't justified by the abstraction.
There's another problem which takes a bit more explanation.
The traditional model for a Web application is to have a persistence layer and a presentation layer (possibly with a services or other layers in between but these are the important two for this discussion). ORMs force a rigid view from your persistence layer up to the presentation layer (ie your entities).
One of the criticisms of more raw SQL methods is that you end up with all these VOs (value objects) or DTOs (data transfer objects) that are used by simply one query. This is touted as an advantage of ORMs because you get rid of that.
Thing is those problems don't go away with ORMs, they simply move up to the presentation layer. Instead of creating VOs/DTOs for queries, you create custom presentation objects, typically one for every view. How is this better? IMHO it isn't.
I've written about this in ORM or SQL: Are we there yet?.
My persistence technology of choice (in Java) these days is ibatis. It's a pretty thin wrapper around SQL that does 90%+ of what JPA can do (it can even do lazy-loading of relationships although its not well-documented) but with far less overhead (in terms of complexity and actual code).
This came up last year in a GWT application I was writing. Lots of translation from EclipseLink to presentation objects in the service implementation. If we were using ibatis it would've been far simpler to create the appropriate objects with ibatis and then pass them all the way up and down the stack. Some purists might argue this is Badâ„¢. Maybe so (in theory) but I tell you what: it would've led to simpler code, a simpler stack and more productivity.
ORMs have some nice features. They can handle much of the dog-work of copying database columns to object fields. They usually handle converting the language's date and time types to the appropriate database type. They generally handle one-to-many relationships pretty elegantly as well by instantiating nested objects. I've found if you design your database with the strengths and weaknesses of the ORM in mind, it saves a lot of work in getting data in and out of the database. (You'll want to know how it handles polymorphism and many-to-many relationships if you need to map those. It's these two domains that provide most of the 'impedance mismatch' that makes some call ORM the 'vietnam of computer science'.)
For applications that are transactional, i.e. you make a request, get some objects, traverse them to get some data and render it on a Web page, the performance tax is small, and in many cases ORM can be faster because it will cache objects it's seen before, that otherwise would have queried the database multiple times.
For applications that are reporting-heavy, or deal with a large number of database rows per request, the ORM tax is much heavier, and the caching that they do turns into a big, useless memory-hogging burden. In that case, simple SQL mapping (LinQ or iBatis) or hand-coded SQL queries in a thin DAL is the way to go.
I've found for any large-scale application you'll find yourself using both approaches. (ORM for straightforward CRUD and SQL/thin DAL for reporting).
I say plain SQL for Reads, ORM for CUD.
Performance is something I'm always concerned about, specially in web applications, but also code maintainability and readability. To address these issues I wrote SqlBuilder.
ORM is not just portability (which is kinda hard to achieve even with ORMs, for that matter). What it gives you is basically a layer of abstraction over a persistent store, when a ORM tool frees you from writing boilerplate SQL queries (selects by PK or by predicates, inserts, updates and deletes) and lets you concentrate on the problem domain.
Any respectable design will need some abstraction for the database, just to handle the impedance mismatch. But the simplest first step (and adequate for most cases) I would expect would be a DAL, not a heavyweight ORM. Your only options aren't those at the ends of the spectrum.
EDIT in response to a comment requesting me to describe how I distinguish DAL from ORM:
A DAL is what you write yourself, maybe starting from a class that simply encapsulates a table and maps its fields to properties. An ORM is code you don't write for abstraction mechanisms inferred from other properties of your dbms schema, mostly PKs and FKs. (This is where you find out if the automatic abstractions start getting leaky or not. I prefer to inform them intentionally, but that may just be my personal preference).
The key that made my ORM use really fly was code generation. I agree that the ORM route isn't the fastest, in code performance terms. But when you have a medium to large team, the DB is changing rapidly the ability to regenerate classes and mappings from the DB as part of the build process is something brilliant to behold, especially when you use CI. So your code may not be the fastest, but your coding will be - I know which I'd take in most projects.
My recommendation is to develop using an ORM while the Schema is still fluid, use profiling to find bottlenecks, then tune those areas which need it using raw Sql.
Another thought, the caching built into Hibernate can often make massive performance improvements if used in the right way. No more going back to the DB to read reference data.
Dilemma whether to use a framework or not is quite common in modern day software development scenario.
What is important to understand is that every framework or approach has its pros and cons - for example in our experience we have found that ORM is useful when dealing with transactions i.e. insert/update/delete operations - but when it comes to fetch data with complex results it becomes important to evaluate the performance and effectiveness of the ORM tool.
Also it is important to understand that it is not compulsory to select a framework or an approach and implement everything in that. What we mean by that is we can have mix of ORM and native query language. Many ORM frameworks give extension points to plugin in native SQL. We should try not to over use a framework or an approach. We can combine certain frameworks or approaches and come with an appropriate solution.
You can use ORM when it comes to insertion, updation, deletion, versioning with high level of concurrency and you can use Native SQL for report generation and long listing
There's no 'one-tool-fits-all' solution, and this is also true for the question 'should i use an or/m or not ? '.
I would say: if you have to write an application/tool which is very 'data' focused, without much other logic, then I 'd use plain SQL, since SQL is the domain-specific language for this kind of applications.
On the other hand, if I was to write a business/enterprise application which contains a lot of 'domain' logic, then I'd write a rich class model which could express this domain in code. In such case, an OR/M mapper might be very helpfull to successfully do so, as it takes a lot of plumbing code out of your hands.
One of the apps I've developed was an IRC bot written in python. The modules it uses run in separate threads, but I haven't figured out a way to handle threading when using sqlite. Though, that might be better for a separate question.
I really should have just reworded both the title and the actual question. I've never actually used a DAL before, in any language.
Use an ORM that works like SQL, but provides compile-time checks and type safety. Like my favorite: Data Knowledge Objects (disclosure: I wrote it)
For example:
for (Bug bug : Bug.ALL.limit(100)) {
int id = bug.getId();
String title = bug.getTitle();
System.out.println(id +" "+ title);
}
Fully streaming. Easy to set up (no mappings to define - reads your existing schemas). Supports joins, transactions, inner queries, aggregation, etc. Pretty much anything you can do in SQL. And has been proven from giant datasets (financial time series) all the way down to trivial (Android).
I know this question is very old, but I thought that I would post an answer in case anyone comes across it like me. ORMs have come a long way. Some of them actually give you the best of both worlds: making development more productive and maintaining performance.
Take a look at SQL Data (http://sqldata.codeplex.com). It is a very light weight ORM for c# that covers all the bases.
FYI, I am the author of SQL Data.
I'd like to add my voice to the chorus of replies that say "There's a middle ground!".
To an application programmer, SQL is a mixture of things you might want to control and things you almost certainly don't want to be bothered controlling.
What I've always wanted is a layer (call it DAL, ORM, or micro-ORM, I don't mind which) that will take charge of the completely predictable decisions (how to spell SQL keywords, where the parentheses go, when to invent column aliases, what columns to create for a class that holds two floats and an int ...), while leaving me in charge of the higher-level aspects of the SQL, i.e. how to arrange JOINs, server-side computations, DISTINCTs, GROUP BYs, scalar subqueries, etc.
So I wrote something that does this: http://quince-lib.com/
It's for C++: I don't know whether that's the language you're using, but all the same it might be interesting to see this take on what a "middle ground" could look like.

When choosing an ORM, is LINQ to SQL or LINQ to Entities better than NHibernate?

I find I can do more with NHibernate, and even Castle than with the Linq to Entities, or linq to SQL.
Am I crazy?
No you're not crazy. nHibernate is a full OR Mapper, Linq to SQL and Linq to Entities don't implement everything you'd expect from an OR mapper and targeted at a slightly different group of developers.
But don't let that put you off linq though. Linq is still a pretty good idea.. Try Linq to nHibernate :-)
The big drawbacks to NHibernate, Castle, etc., is that they're not exactly light-weight (especially NHibernate.)
Linq to SQL is good for a light-weight, limited use ORM.
I've used both NHibernate and LINQ to SQL. From my point of view it depends on the project, if I need something quick, I would choose L2S, it's so simple to create the dbml mapping and start using it. If I'm developing a more highlevel enterprise solution I would go for the tried and trusted ORM - NHibernate, I find the logging & transaction features simple to use.
LINQ to SQL has a relatively short learning curve, NHibernate has a much steeper learning curve.
LINQ to SQL only supports SQL Server, so if you've an Oracle database then the decision is already made - NHibernate.
I'd recommend checking out http://www.summerofnhibernate.com/ for excellent screencasts on learning NHibernate.
One thing to bear in mind is that NHibernate can be an absolute pig to configure - especially since its based mainly on XML config files because of its roots as the original Hibernate.
Fluent NHibernate goes some way to making this less painful.
Linq certainly though fits in with the general 'way' in which .NET works.
Blockquote Linq certainly though fits in with the general 'way' in which .NET works
Yikes, this kind of sentiment scares me. The RAD stuff built into .net is NOT how dot net works, it's just a tool set for getting prototypes up. .NET allows us to do full DDD applications, w/ high levels of cohesion, seperations of concerns, and allows us to write decoupled code, despite all the attemps ms makes to couple things. I would strongly disagree that .net likes to be coupled, certian tools like to be coupled, i'll include linq to sql in this fray. linq to sql destroys the idea of having a seperate domain model. I cringe at the thought of using my database schema as the underlying model objects. Proper ORM tools should allow us to model our domain first, then link our relational database to these models. NOT the other way around.
I have not tried the Entity Framework, but I definitely would recommend NHibernate over Linq to SQL; The biggest reason I can give is just the control. Linq to SQL likes to have a lot more control over everything, loading the object and maintaining all kinds of tracking information about the object. If you serialize/deserialize, the tracking information can be lost and strange things can happen when saving it again. NHibernate works more as a repository should - You hand it whatever object you want (that you have configured it to understand, of course), and it puts it away in the database, regardless of what you've done with it.